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This ritual is designed to release emotional, mental, and spiritual attachments and cords. When done with a clear mind, heart, and focused intent, this ritual can allow you to release a relationship that is no longer serving you. The relationship can be with another person or with an aspect of yourself that you no longer wish to feed, such as an addictive pattern, bad habit, or negative belief about yourself. This ceremony is as powerful and effective as you allow it to be within you. This is your magic. This is your art.

The secret to the releasing ritual is to be as open as possible while you perform it. Allow your heart and mind to rest in the sacred space of the divine. Feel peace, stillness, and gratitude, and allow these feelings to be your foundation for the work you’re doing. These open flowing feelings allow the deepest work to be done within you. Make this ritual your own: call in angels, guides, totems, or ancestors, and know that they will hold your rhythm for you as you allow yourself to be vulnerable and loose enough to let go. Know that they will help to remove additional energies and provide support for you truly let the release occur. The deeper you let go, the deeper you allow them to inspire and reconnect you with any underlying truths or knowledge you need at this time.

When To Perform This Spell:

During a waning moon and/or when you strongly feel it is time to let go of a relationship or pattern.

What You Will Need:

3 Pieces of yarn

Red: representing the passion and connection that binds you

White: representing the purity of your intention and willingness to bring clarity and light to this situation

Blue: to invite knowledge during the ceremony and after

If you wish to use different colours, check out “Colours and Ritual” to get a sense of the symbology of each colour.

1 White Candle

Sage bundle

1 Bowl filled with water

Optional:

Other cleansing herbs such as sweetgrass, cedar, and mugwort can be used as well if you feel drawn to bring more specific energies to your ceremony.

Scissors can be used to cut the cord in place of fire.

The Ritual:

1) Sit in nature or a quiet, secure place in your home where you will not be interrupted. This should be a place that makes you feel relaxed and be easy to meditate in.

2) Place the white candle in front of you and light it. As it is lit in front of you, know that this candle represents pure divine light. It mirrors the infinite flame you feel within your heart and it represents your true self— your unique soul. The flame holds a steady flow of pure love as you perform this ritual. All of your intentions at this point will pass though the purifying light of this flame.

3) Light the sage and smudge your space.

4) Take the yarn and cut each of the coloured strings into approximately 9-inch sections.

5) Tie the yarn together allowing you to braid the three strands.

6) This is the powerful part: you are going to bind all of your raw energy into this cord. Really clear your mind and focus.

7) Say aloud:

“It is my intention to cut all ties with ___________ . Through this work I will release all connections in all directions of time. I allow wisdom and light to fill any spaces that are left within me as I let go.”

As you hold these strands, put all of your feelings, questions, and frustrations, into your being. Allow your emotions to flow as they need to; allow anger to rise and meet your intention; allow sadness to be released through tears; allow any confusion to be pushed into the cord, knowing that it doesn’t have to consume your mind any longer.

Take as long as you need to, braid and put your full heart and mind into this, as you are focused and purging in this moment. If it takes you an hour (or more) that is OK, if it takes you five minutes that is OK. Your intuition will let you know when you are done. All of your feelings and thoughts are going into this cord. If you finish braiding it, and are still releasing simply hold the cord in your hands as you continue to focus your energy into the cord. It doesn’t matter how it looks, it’s all in how it feels. Know that you don’t need to think of every individual situation or feeling in order for the issue to be cleared, but rather, know that the intention to cut ALL ties has already summoned. All parts inside of you, whether conscious or unconscious will be activated and follow this intention. You simply have to flow and trust the process.

8) Once you feel a sense of space or clarity, it is time to let go. Take the cord firmly in both hands and hold it over the flame. Take a moment to look at that cord. Feel and know what that represents to you.

Say aloud:

“ I let you go now.

As I burn this cord I release all connections to you in all directions of time.

I forgive you for any pain that you have caused, conscious or unconscious.

I let that go now.

I forgive myself for any wrongdoings I may have done, conscious or unconscious.

I let that go now.

I feel gratitude for what I have learned through this relationship, and I open myself to understanding why this has manifested in my life.

I allow wisdom and light to fill any empty spaces that are left within me as I let go. And so it is.”

9) Allow the cord to burn in the flame. Once you feel satisfied with its destruction, place it in the bowl of water. Make sure the fire is safely out. The fire purifies all.

10) Smudge yourself one last time.

11) If you can, pour the water and the charred cord in a hole in the Earth. If you do not have access simply pour it out in a mindful way, while remembering and honouring your intention.

Post-Ritual:

Now that we are done, how you handle yourself after the ritual is just as important as the ritual itself. You have a choice here: you can rip open the wound and reinvigorate it with everything that you have released and continue the cycle. As you are the creator of your own experience, you can do that. Or, you can become very present and very aware of your thoughts and actions in the coming days or weeks. If you feel triggered you must reaffirm the ritual by bringing neutrality and peace to any negative thought cycles. Surrender them to your angels or guides or imagine burning them in a flame.

 

Happy Casting Witchies!

47 Comments

  1. Christina Stephani October 6, 2020 at 3:33 pm

    In this ritual, can we use more than 3 colours of yarn?

  2. Christina Stephani October 5, 2020 at 8:04 pm

    As he seems quite skeptical, I’m really confused about his true feelings toward me. He’s been pulling out and pulling in like a magnet which makes me stuck in a moment, he seems to conceal his true feelings. So i really wanna know, does this ritual change only my emotions? Or does this also change his emotions, feelings as well? Once I donw the ritual, Does it effect his affection and actions towards me? Or is this ritual only work on me where I can move on with myself? Is there a chance him coming back to me again? I really wanna know the exact depth of this ritual as I’m traumented with this toxic relationship. I’m dying to get rid of me as soon as possible, please let me know the answers. I’m willing to perform the ritual ASAP ! Thank You !

  3. Christina Stephani October 5, 2020 at 7:58 pm

    Dear Gigi, I do believe this is one of the best explained and details ritual ever. As much as it seems so authentic, I have few questions for my individual issue. I have been in love with the same guy for almost 8years now, as much as he hurt me repeatedly I was blindly in love with him and fooled everytime.Totally losing myself, I was in a huge misconception that he’s my soulmate. I was so drawn to him unconditionaly. But Now I’m fully confirmed he’s not the right person for me, Not twinflame. No matter how much I love him it’s not working out. So I’m fully ready to let go of him, release and heal myself. I just wanna know, once I done this will I able to totally forget him or will I have the same deep feelings afterward? I really need to erase him from my memory. Yet there are some confusions about his true feelings about me as he’s been acting so confusing by time to time. Like, everytime he broke my heart, he kept coming back again and again continuously.

  4. Anthony June 4, 2020 at 4:28 pm

    Hi Gigi,
    Not sure if you are still active here, but would this work for a lover from a past life.
    Basically my fiance in a past life was murdered by her then lover/husband in a jealous fit of rage. He is now still connected to my fiance and is causing a lot of anxiety and fear.
    My fiances family are trying a spell on the penumbral eclipse tomorrow (5th June) and I am hoping that will work. However I would like a back up option just in case.
    Many thanks to you.
    Blessed be.

    Anthony

  5. Riean March 25, 2020 at 7:35 pm

    Hi.

    I don’t know if I should be even asking thi. I am not practicing wiccan (I hope I used the correct term), but I really want to cut ties with my legal husband. It has been almost a year since he went on his own and I just can’t seem to move on. I really want, I am desperate, to get over this grief and start anew with our child. Can someone help me, please? Also, will it affect my child’s connection to his father?

    Thank you.

  6. Amanda January 12, 2020 at 4:37 pm

    Hi Gigi. I have just done this spell and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. Thank you.

  7. Maria Ulibarri January 7, 2020 at 12:16 pm

    Thank you, I have been searching and looking for the perfect spell to cut ties with my ex he keeps trying to re-enter my life and I just want him to leave me alone. He brings me anxiety and fear into my soul.
    Blessings your way dear.

  8. Selena December 2, 2019 at 1:05 am

    I like the wording, very bright and very clearly written. I have been looking for this type of spell for a few years now. I learned one years ago and it worked as well. It was wrapped around the air spell type of ritual where the person burnt a leaf that had a symbol drawn upon it in gold ink. You placed it in a cauldron and burnt the leaf with the aid of the ancestors and guides you choose. Once burned you blew it into the wind and called out what you were releasing to the air so the trees, guides, ancestors could hear your needs. And aid you in cutting the ties that weigh you down. Guilt. Addiction etc…

    Wonderful to see a new version.

    Blessings

  9. Mel November 18, 2019 at 8:14 pm

    Tomorrow night I plan to do this spell under a waning moon! I will be releasing all ties to someone of a past life who is now in this lifetime! He is also connected with my past life soul sister twin. She still remains connected to him so I needed to find something that releases my ties without losing her. I feel this is the spell for me!! I’m feeling so ready!

  10. Chris September 28, 2019 at 5:22 pm

    Is it possible to do this for my friend? Their relationship has been terrible and she’s just a shell of who she used to be. I want her happy but she’s addicted to him.
    How can I do this for her? I have their hair… maybe I could brain it with the string.

    1. Ellie March 9, 2020 at 2:14 pm

      it is unwise to do witchcraft for someone else without their knowledge or consent, im really sorry but she has to come to term with that herself. blessed be

  11. Catherine September 27, 2019 at 9:39 am

    Hi Gigi, I am newer to witchcraft and I wanted to ask: I am using this spell to get over my ex but I would love for us to be friends again someday. So I want this spell to help us both to move on rather than to severe all contact and connection with them forever, do you think this version of cutting cords is still good for that or should I try a more general version?

  12. Savannah July 29, 2019 at 10:48 am

    I used this spell without any of the paraphernalia, and it worked. I had tried to release my ex for a year and a half but kept bringing him into my experience, reliving the pain, the sorrow and the longing, and I’ve tried so many other things to let him go, but this spell – especially the wording of releasing all connections in all directions of time felt like an instant strong release. Thank you so much for this.

  13. Aida July 21, 2019 at 5:15 pm

    Hello…I’m ready to cut the connection cord. My question is, can it be during the waning moon stage? Like the waning gibbous moon or waning crescent moon?

    1. Elllie March 9, 2020 at 2:12 pm

      hi, this may be late but maybe i can help anyone else reading. New moon are best for spells like these because it represents new beginnings and the ending of a cycle.

  14. Ashley May 24, 2019 at 12:18 pm

    I went by this but I didn’t have all the stuff. So I let my spirit Guide me. I couldn’t go another day with all this hurt that consumes me. The way he acts like I don’t matter, he lies & keeps me waiting hours for him just to never show. I no longer want to feel anything for him. So I got the white candle I put his picture on it & i wrote what i releas, let go & cut with on sketch paper, I taped it next to his pic. I put his name on it.i put his hair,sage on it. I wrote my own chant I guess of everything I’m letting go, releasing & cutting ties with. I put my heart in it. I folded the letter out it under the candle with a black shoe string. I slept with it next to me touching it. I asked only good things go his way. When I woke up I was hurt that he never came back like he said. But I knew he wasn’t cuz he doesn’t care or he wouldn’t be messing with my so called friend. I was so hurt cuz I know he was with her last night so I put my blood on the letter. I relocated the candle to above where I sleep. But when I put my blood on it I was saying I will not hurt over you anymore, I am not your fool. I will feel nothing for you. I repeated alot of things but I felt a lil better. But I can still feel it but it feels better I guess. I don’t know what spirit guides are but since i was a child there has been something a spirit, GOD who knows but that just leads me. I want to learn so much more. 1 for the cords have came to my mind & I don’t know where it came from but I’m being lead to do it.

  15. Gigi May 14, 2019 at 6:43 pm

    I had the same reaction to “cut.” “Release” resonates! I also have an issue with “all” because I dont want to not have this person in my life. I am considering: “release the ties that dont serve me…” Thoughts?

  16. S.D. Brown April 28, 2019 at 12:55 pm

    For anyone interested, I did this spell and it works! I have been struggling with my feelings because at the end of 2018, I felt like I had a lot left unsaid. Since the new year, it’s been hard because I’ve made absolutely no contact, but without closure, my mind felt looped in a conversation I was having with myself, leading to nowhere. This spell helped me get that closure. I feel like my 2019 can finally begin now. It surprised me how powerful this spell was, I guess because this was my first time doing one. I truly believe in magic. The instructions were so clear that doing each step felt effortless. By the closing where I smudged myself for a last time, my brain felt like it had received a fresh battery. And this morning, I’m full of more gratitude. If you need forgiveness and release, try this spell.

  17. S.D. Brown April 23, 2019 at 2:14 pm

    I just saw the link about the other colors. Sorry for the repeated question. After reading the color meanings, red is definitely the better choice for my intention, so I bought everything I need. I’m very grateful for this site.

  18. S.D. Brown April 17, 2019 at 12:24 pm

    I stumbled onto this page, and I’m so truly grateful. My decision-making in romantic relationships has been marred by manic episodes, loneliness, depression, and a desperation to be loved in this life. I’ve had a string of bad relationships, mostly because of my poor choices, and normally, I’ve been able to “move on,” but I’ve been struggling for the last 2 years. I felt a deep, emotional bond to someone I met online. We never even met in-person, which is why I can’t understand why this has been so hard for me. The choice to “cut” should have been easy and apparent immediately, but I was so alone–and still am. He has since moved on, and I’ve been trying to figure out how I can respectfully release this situation and forgive myself for my mistakes, for the good of everyone. I really needed something that would be physical and symbolic, and I think I’ve found that in this spell. I’ve already set a date to do it on the waning moon this month, Saturday, April 27. I have one question: Is pink yarn okay instead of red yarn? I’m asking because I’ve got all the supplies I need except the red yarn. Thank you for your help and for sharing this spell.

  19. Charisse Olivier March 6, 2019 at 3:35 am

    What oils can I use for anointing the candle

  20. Thea August 23, 2018 at 10:44 am

    I was consumed by my feelings of resentment and fear to a co-worker who is very toxic but won’t leave me alone. She keeps on stressing and harassing me that our relationship unfortunately got destroyed. But she still won’t leave me alone. I don’t know why Gigi but reading this post of yours suddenly made me feel at peace. It gave me hope that she won’t bother me someday and I everything will be okay. 🙂 I’m ready to do this ritual now 🙂

  21. Akasha Orr Rockland May 16, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    Beautiful! My husband and I are going to do this on the next New Moon. So much baggage to be released so we can be our best selves. I love you so much Gigi and have been subscribed to your YouTube channel for forever and have no idea why it took me so long to find your website/blog! Anyway, blessings on you for all you share ?
    Kash

  22. Mattie March 1, 2018 at 11:08 pm

    Dear Gigi
    Will this work for karmatic soul ties that bind past lives of time.

  23. Nicole February 17, 2018 at 5:36 am

    Hello
    Will this work to cut ties from your twin flame? Or atleast the pain that I feel with this relationship? I want to release the pain or move on from him.
    Thankyou

  24. Maryam February 4, 2018 at 11:45 am

    I just heard the answer. Following the feeling. Use your intuition. If you see this – still curious to know what you perspective is!!!!

  25. Maryam February 4, 2018 at 11:44 am

    I know this post is old – but I was never in a place to decide and cut ties until now. I wanted to know.. is it possible to do it for multiple people in one go? i am cutting ties with both my parents + ex lovers. Should I do each individual separately? and dedicate different days to them? all my love. Maryam

  26. Jerry February 3, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    Will this ritual affect my relationship with my children, since I’m cutting ties with there mother?

  27. Dawn November 26, 2017 at 2:56 pm

    How would this work for a past family or multiple people? Could I say i release or cut all ties that are not for my highest good since I don’t know all of them or does it have to be an individual basis?

    Thank you so much6for sharing. i am soooooo ready to release this baggage.

  28. Fanny Jacobson November 18, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    Dearest Gigi
    Thank you for this beautiful powerful ritual. The effects have been almost instantaneous and all that I could have wished. Blessings and love to you
    Fanny

  29. Amy November 13, 2017 at 11:24 pm

    This is wonderful and I plan to do it in a few days. Tell me, is there a preferred direction I should face during the ritual?
    Thanks!
    Amy

  30. Stephanie Wirth April 28, 2017 at 5:59 pm

    This is so helpful right now! Thank you. Also try bleeding heart essence to help release tears that won’t come so you can transform the situation.

  31. Jeanne Anne Decosta March 26, 2017 at 11:51 am

    oooPs ~ posted the above in the wrong place ~ was supposed to go under “Womb of Sirius” essay ~ sorry please delete 🙂

  32. Sara February 13, 2017 at 6:44 am

    Thank you so much for this. It’s exactly what I need. I just I wanted to ask, if I were to use scissors to cut the cord opposed to using the candle. How would I do this ?
    Thank you muchly

    1. Gigi Young February 13, 2017 at 5:53 pm

      Hello Sara,

      Just use the scissors in the most natural way while holding the intention.

      -Gigi

  33. Silvio January 31, 2016 at 4:11 am

    Susan, I would recommend you listen to your friends and Gigi. The heart is a tool, just as the brain is a tool. Just like your head, it can be strongly connected with your ego. It is common for people to want someone – fall in love with someone who is not available. When they then become available, the magic is gone. That is ego and the heart working together. There are countless of other examples, like falling in love with a person because they are rich, tall and handsome, an asshole, protective, because of sex etc…. There are people stuck in bad – even abusive relationships because the heart will not let go. LET GO! You will be better for it (trust me, I have been there). Try to meditate. That will put distance between you and your head as well as your heart. From there you will gain equanimity which really is your soul’s vibration void of emotions. TRUST ME!

  34. SUSAN BETINSKI January 30, 2016 at 5:06 am

    Thank you deeply for your response. Confusion is an interesting word in this case, my logical brain agrees with 100% of what you and my friends say. My logical brain is not even sure if we are compatible (based on his actions). My heart on the flip side is 100% certain that it wants to retain the bond. The resistance to doing this ritual is not coming from the logical brain, but from the heart. I literally feel it in my heart. While my heart is in pain, it is focused and certain that the energetic cord between us is like a needed function for its survival. It is that strong. My life is being ruined, but my heart does not care. Does one always follow the heart? I hope I make sense. So much love to you!

    1. Charles January 8, 2018 at 8:32 pm

      Susan, I really feel for you. I hope that someday I can find someone whom I love this much and that loves me this much. As much as it may have hurt, or may still hurt, I believe that are you are very blessed to have felt such love in your lifetime.

      I am just dipping my toe in to Gigi’s amazing body of work, but even now feel very confident with what she shares with us. We are so blessed to have her energy with us and I would be inclined to follow her advice. It really seems to come from a place of universal love and respect for us.

      Charles

    2. Amy Marie January 20, 2019 at 11:30 pm

      Hi Susan
      I know this is late – but a reply may help someone else. The situation you have described is reflective of a past life connection. The love you feel is not from this life, but another. If it was true love in this life – then the Universe would open all the doors and you would be together quite easily. If you do a cord cutting, it will release the emotions from the past life (that are actually not really yours from the here and now) and will allow you to feel your true feelings. This has happened to me, and my clients, many times. Hope that helps anyone reading this!

      1. Dee February 23, 2019 at 1:54 pm

        Amy Marie,

        I’m going through this now and have recently read Brian Weiss books on past lives. I had convinced myself that this man and I were destined to be together and that our love from a past life was destined for this life. Would love to hear more about the past life connection. I’m going to perform the chord cutting today. The connection is deep and the pain just as deep.

        And thank you Gigi!

      2. Amy K Cowgill January 17, 2020 at 5:02 pm

        I needed to read this thank you. I was apprehensive about doing the ritual because I know that my exhusband is my twin flame and we have had many past lives together and I was afraid of what hole would be left in me after cutting cords. I put aside my fears and went forward with it last night and it was a very emotional experience and then it was washed away and I was extremely exhausted in a good way, like I ran a marathon! I’m so grateful I found this ritual and I added in a cutting cord spell candle and some of my favorite healing stones. I had never done anything like this before but today I feel very calm and the pain I was carrying in my heart is gone! Blessings

  35. Susan Betinski January 29, 2016 at 8:15 am

    Hello Gigi! I LOVE your work! This seems like a very powerful ritual, and timely! Before I do this I wanted to ask you about how this fits into following your heart. My heart speaks the loudest to me when I am in love. Currently, I am in love with someone who is not available (he is married). My heart knows he is the one for me. By performing this ritual, am I not ignoring my heart? My logical brain, ethics (and friends lol) are telling me to not follow my heart. But my heart is focused and wants nothing else! HELP!!!

    1. Gigi Young January 29, 2016 at 7:07 pm

      Hello Susan,

      In situations like this it can become very complicated. Your feelings are real but physically he is unavailable to truly express and partake in a love relationship. As this individual is married I would recommend letting it go and allowing the energy that is attracting you to each other to speak. Whenever there is confusion like this it can help immensely to take time away from the situation to let the energy unravel and reveal to you all elements of the situation. Practically speaking this individual would have to divorce his wife to truly be with you, there is very little action that would make sense until he has gone forward and fully cut those cords.

      If you were to do this ritual it will help you understand the deeper reasons and feelings that are drawing you to him as when we attempt to remove something we begin to see it from a cleansing angle.

      – Gigi

  36. caroline January 29, 2016 at 2:54 am

    omg this is the best explained ritual ever:)

  37. Chris January 28, 2016 at 9:40 pm

    Hi Gigi, This information is coming at a wonderful time. For some reason, I had a negative reaction to the word “cut” in the phrase “cut all ties.” I’d like to replace it with “release” all ties. Somehow the “cut” part sounded angry to me and seems to fuel the anger and resentment that I’d like to release. I don’t suppose it makes any difference if I replace on word with another, but I just thought I’d mention it in case you had other thoughts. Thank you!

    1. Gigi Young January 28, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      Great modification. That does sound much more surrendered. It is important that you use whatever wording feels right.

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