One of the most common questions that I receive goes something like this:
“Help! I am meditating, I am listening, I am trying to connect and and nothing is happening! I am so frustrated!”
Learning to connect to your guides/higher-self can be a frustrating endeavour. There are many misconceptions we can hold within us that oppose this process. You want to connect, you know it’s possible, and yet you sit there and nothing happens, not even a little ‘hello’ echoes across your mind and you are no better off than when you sat down. The truth about that frustrating silence is that no matter how much we want our guides to burst into our paradigm and pull us into theirs, they cannot. You have free will which cannot be violated meaning that you will have to join them in theirs, or at least meet them half way. We also have to examine our intentions for wanting to open up: why are we truly wanting to access our higher-self? Is this coming from a genuine sense of adventure and wonder? Or, are we seeking more control and hoping that higher abilities will support our ego? Once we explore those dynamics it helps to make sure that we are honouring our logical mind. Do we know enough about the mechanics of intuition to feel comfortable surrendering into the unknown?
Let’s discuss this deeper with our first misconception.
1) “My guides are going to speak to me within the same level of consciousness that I am in day to day.”
If you want a clear working relationship with your guides you have to let go of this reality and sink into another. You have to let go of control. You have to let go of expectation. You have to let go, and by let go I mean give your focus to emptiness, try not to judge, analyze, plan, or compartmentalize or evaluate your experience. If you are doing this, you can be sure that you are in mind (not soul) and thus fracturing any intuitive hits before they can even be perceived. All necessary insights will make it into your mind once they have gone through their full enmeshing with your other subtle bodies.
Do you see spirit beings walking around plain as day just as you do humans? Do you regularly see peoples totem animals walking in a steady trail behind them? Do you make eye contact with the bank tellers angels that are standing by? If your answer is no to those questions then that means you are currently not within the spectrum of reality where you are perceiving other dimensional beings and will need to begin releasing your grasp of your waking reality little by little. This isn’t such a bad thing, obviously, if we were to suddenly see beings from other dimensions overlapping our own it would create a lot of confusion and be damaging psychologically. For this reason we must adjust our consciousness, or adjust our perception, in order to connect.
Our guides are invisible to us because they exist within another realm, a realm that has a much different expression of consciousness then we do here, and we must align with that. You are not the fixed point here, for all intents and purposes they are the fixed point that you must align with. In turn the discipline, healing and wisdom that occurs internally as we do this prepares us to handle this type of shift and merge with higher beings.
2) “I will gain more of a sense of control when I connect with my guides.”
The thing about spiritual development is that people come to it from different places with different agendas. Some people come into this work to honestly explore themselves and to take responsibility and look at the parts of them that they don’t want to see. That is what the spirit world actually does, it aims you right where you don’t want to look, because the pain that we have become numb to comes alive when our soul begins to light up. However, some people come to this work not to heal and face their numbness, but to feel more in control of their life. They feel as though once they can hear their guides that their life will become easier and that they will immediately be tapped into infinite wisdom. When we do this we are actually spiritualizing the negative qualities of the ego, rather than balancing it. In one way they are correct, you do get deeper insights, inspiration and you can feel much more conscious in what you are creating in your life. However, feeling in control is not something that happens when you are aligning with spirit. In fact, you may feel as though you are being re-oriented, shifted and taken down a completely different path beyond the goals you may have set in your mind.
What this work teaches us is that the mind creates a desire for control when it is over worked and needs a break. It’s analytic and seeking energy begins compounding on itself believing that happiness can be reached by pursuit and peace can be found through exhaustively walking within the tangled maze of it’s own beliefs. Happiness and peace are actually not experienced through mind at all, they are actually felt through the heart, just like our soul. This means that when we try to approach any type of spiritual pursuit from a place of control we block it. This need for control, many times disguised by a feeling of needing to ‘understand’, can feel innocent and we may not realize that we are not fully open.
So, if you are having a problem connecting with your guides, feel into your motivations to make sure that they aren’t rooted in control. If you feel as though you are having difficulty realizing this one of the best things to do is to layer in a more aligned energy such as: wonder, playfulness or peace. All of those feelings can balance the emotional body when it is in the grips of mind.
3) “I just don’t feel like I know enough. It’s all so mysterious.”
Even though we are talking about a pretty ‘woo-woo’ thing, this topic does not deserve to be labelled as such. There are many, many books, videos, and websites that provide evidence of intuition and the power of our soul from many different angles. Give yourself full permission to explore all of them as you need to. You are not a ‘non-believer’ because you need more information. Further, having questions will not block your abilities, but not pursuing them and putting pressure on yourself to connect will.
Even though we may consider ourself “believers” it is important that you feel satisfied with your level of knowledge about how your consciousness works. It is difficult to relax and let go when our mind is still hungry for more of the mechanics of how our subtle bodies work. It is extremely valuable to explore all of the questions and doubts that you have about your intuition. You are not being unsupportive of yourself by any means, curiosity is key and it allows a deeper and more clear connection. My advice for you here is to take time to write down all the fears, doubts and questions you have- spare nothing. Once you are clear on what exactly is needing to be addressed spend time researching, see if you can find any information that address’ your concerns and make sure that your conscious mind is satisfied. More often then not once we take the time to articulate our doubts and fears the answers flow right in allowing us to feel more supported as we open to our higher-selves.
Some of my favourite scientists/researchers who speak about the soul are:
Please share your most awe inspiring bridgers of science & soul in the comments below!
Are there any other misconceptions that we can hold that block us from opening up? Add those in the comments below as well.
Thank-You for reading and happy connecting!