You know that burning feeling of absolute amazement and admiration that we can have for another person? That bubbling sensation of awe and pure resonance that seems to leap from our hearts whenever we come across them? We often write it off as a feeling of envy or appreciation that doesn’t really go any deeper than simply recognizing someone with talent. Today, I want to speak about how the people we admire are more to us than simply talented people to appreciate, they are actually key to our own personal evolution.

The truth is that feelings of admiration for others is our higher-selves way of letting us know that there is a quality about that person that is waiting to come alive in ourselves. The intense resonance we feel is actually our own hidden aspects asking to be acknowledged and cultivated. Our higher-self is speaking to us through another person because we are not yet recognizing the quality within ourselves.

Our strong identification with the person is simply telling us to figure out what qualities they are representing. Do you love their sense of humour, their confidence, their style? Do they have great vision through a clear knowing of themselves? What exactly is it that makes you feel inspired by them? What qualities about them do you feel you would like to integrate?

Our soul uses this resonance and mirroring to directly communicate with us that the exact degree in which we admire someone is the same ratio that we are neglecting it within ourselves. We can actually miss these underdeveloped aspects of ourselves and it can be intense to see another person embodying them. This understanding gives us perspective, especially when we begin to think about people who become obsessed or have unhealthy idolizing relationships with people. The more obsessed we become the more we are desiring the archetype that they represent to us to be developed or harmonized within ourselves. When we begin to understand this we can take a more active and conscious step in our self development.

Keep in mind that we are designed to unravel ourselves in this life, to be re-born again and again into more precise physical embodiments of our soul. It is part of our purpose here to shed our skin and allow a new pure form to push through. Within that new form we allow a larger capacity for joy, love and our raw talent begins to magnetize us to all that we need. Our best indicator of who we are becoming is who we admire in our own way.

It should be noted that copying others is not the same as using your interpretation of their energy to inspire latent aspects of yourself. It is important to be inspired by others but to live deeply enough to figure out why and create your own voice. Copying actually indicates that you lack an identity and sense of self all together.

If you are not sure what inner seeds the people you admire represent within you perhaps explore the dynamic with the following questions.

You may need a pen and paper for this, but I promise that by the end of this little exploration you will look at the people you admire as a message instead of a creature worthy of endless awe.

1) How do they make you feel? What part of you lights up when you see them? This question gives you a general understanding of the part of you that may need a voice or attention.

2) What archetypes do they represent? Our higher mind speaks in archetypes so when we are confused it can help to begin with symbols and allow complexity to rise once we have some rough understanding. Be sure to go with the archetypes this person represents to you, not necessarily public opinion.

(This is an exercise into your soul, not an analysis of the individual and their role in the world. Are they creative, perhaps a writer or artist? Are they a politician or leader that seems to have great charisma and influence? What stands out to you about them? What specifically does this person seem to have or do that inspires you?  Have they honed their craft to a degree that you are looking to do as well? Are they charismatic? Are they comfortable in their skin? Are they great communicators or brilliant scientific minds? Pay attention to what this person does that is impressive to you. Really let it sink in!)

3 ) Keep an open mind to the fact that these things may be something that needs to be gently healed. You may have suppressed them from coming forward. Be willing to look into whether there are blocks around what you admire in others. Jealously can be a reversed admiration where we are experiencing an inner battle; we feel blocked where this person feels open. Embrace that you have uncovered some jealousy because it is showing you where you have a limited belief as jealousy lets us know that we have a belief that says that we cannot integrate what the individual we admire has integrated, even though we desperately want to. Jealousy indicates we are selling ourselves short so take notice if you have felt jealous at all.

4) What phase of your life were you in when you discovered them? What were your goals at the time?  Many times when people really start to come onto our radar it is because we are being aligned with an awakening and expansion. The universe will guide us to others that have grounded those qualities that best match our soul, this is how we learn and grow. Notice when you began to follow someone as it will let you know when you had a significant shift in frequency.

5) What belief systems do you have from childhood (or before) that have not allowed this part of you to speak? Were people who contained these qualities shunned in your family or social circles? What is the belief that is causing the resistance within your being? Once you discover this belief begin releasing it through positive affirmations, meditation, presence, spirit guides or whatever belief busting technique you resonate with!

Once you have a list, integrate the qualities you feel the person you admire has. If you admire their courage, do something that frightens you every day, even if it is just going to a movie alone. Your admiration may be your heart telling you that you are too much in your comfort zone. If you admire their ability to communicate begin to read books or take classes on how to express yourself and make it your goal to get out in the world and practice. Your higher self may be trying to tell you that you have opinions and perspectives that need to be freely shared. If you admire someone’s appearance get honest about whether or not you have been neglecting your body and why. Put in place some slow and easy efforts to begin to care for yourself. Your attention may be drawn to admire people who are already good at this to show you that it is time to start doing the same.

Resonance is the silent language that guides us and it is important that we understand it’s role in our lives. Admirationt lets us know that we have a similar story within ourselves, it lets us know there is a part of us that needs to open. We are being called to grow in the same place that the person we admire already has. Waste no time believing that we are separate from those that we admire, know that what you admire is what resonates, that it is a sleeping part of your own self, if it was not within you you would not perceive it at all.  This simple process will help you discover the many beautiful facets that are resting inside of you. It also doesn’t hurt that owning what we idolize naturally removes hierarchies allowing soverign connections with others thus healing many wounds that appear in society when we give our power away.

Let me know how it goes in the comment section! What did you discover?